We live in a technological age where it's possible to meet 'the one' anywhere in the world. With the increase of online / long distance relationships, new questions are asked, and better answers are needed. We (Shin and Robert) want to help.
Friday, December 17, 2004
Foundations... Part 1
Everything from the simplest friendship, to a life long marriage, needs a solid foundation to work. It's like building a house, you just can't do it without a good foundation to build on. In a relationship, any relationship, from friendship on up to life long love, you need the fundamental elements.

I'm not talking about superficial things. The fundamental elements of a relationship is not "wow, she's cute" or "he looks hot in those jeans". The foundation begins with you. Ok, so you think someone is attractive, great, how much do you know about them? How much do you know about yourself? Are you the kind of person that you can believe in? Do you have solid fundamental values & ethics that guide you in life? Are those values & ethics morally correct? Does it make sense to have those values, does common sense back your ethics up?

Some people don't have deeply rooted values & ethics. Some people don't have core beliefs. Some people live a reactionary lifestyle, adopting and forsaking values & beliefs when it's convenient to them, or helps them fit in with who they are with at the time. Too many people don't know who they are inside. How can you share your life honestly, if you don't know what you believe in? We all have different friends, with different interests and so on. If someone tells one friend that they believe in something, and then tells a different friend something completely to the opposite... then neither is true, and that person has lied to both friends.

Trying to gain the acceptance of others by faking to be someone you are not, is not honest. It's not honest to you or them. Trying to be popular by claiming certain values or beliefs that you don't truly believe in, is fake, and when those beliefs are tested, your weak foundation crumbles. Honesty, or at least simple truth, is a major part of the foundation of relationships. Without the foundation of honestly, there is nothing on which to build the trust.

"This above all: To thine own self be true. And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou cans't not be false to any man" - William Shakespeare

"If you start with knowing yourself honestly, you'll learn to share yourself with others truthfully" - Robert Paul Gilles Jr.

"Faith may be free, but trust should be earned" - Robert Paul Gilles Jr.
posted by Robert @ 5:15 AM   0 comments
Wednesday, December 01, 2004
Love, now that's a topic most people can relate to. There are so many definitions for love out there. I guess here I would like to express my version of the definition of love.

Growing up watching fairytale cartoons where the prince and princess always end up kissing and living happily ever after was my dream. But of course as you grow you realize that is not the case. I mean, you can't just kiss a person and know he/she is the one for you. I'm a firm believer of true love. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. The problem is meeting that someone. I've always believed in soulmates and hoped and prayed to meet mine. I am very fortunate to have met mine and I thank God everyday for answering prayers. In my deepest dreams I never thought I would feel this close to anyone or be this happy.

Love starts with friendship and develops into something deeper. To love someone is to know someone. Love is believing in that someone no matter what happens. There will be no love where there is no trust.

Love means waking up everyday thinking of him/her and smile. Love means when he/she says "Everything will be okay" you believe it with all your heart. Love is being silly with each other and not be embarassed. Love is having burp competitions and laugh about it. Love means kissing his/her nose when he/she is sick. Love is learning how to cook something he/she loves to eat. Love means feeling sexy with each other even when you're 60. Love means kissing each other when you first wake up before mouth wash. Love is sharing the bathroom while another is on the toilet. Love is when a hug and kiss erases all negative feelings. Love is slow dancing to the music in your heart. Love is when you're happy or sad he/she is the first person you think about. Love means when he/she is gone, you feel his/her presence.

It's love when you love someone so much you could cry. It's love when the thought of losing them makes you so scared. It's love when seeing the sunset makes you miss him/her more because you just want to share something so simple yet so amazing together. It's love when hours spent together feels like minutes. It's love when seeing him/her smile makes you smile. It's love when there are times when it feels like it's just the two of you in this world. It's love when you're inspired to write something like this based on him/her.

Love is the answer to so many questions. Love just is, love is life.
posted by Shin @ 4:57 PM   0 comments
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